So, we are definitely in the trenches of the holiday season now, and there most likely isn’t a member of your house whose emotions aren’t at peak.

As an adult, I know all too well how hard it is to keep a rein on your own emotions, rather than anyone else’s, the Pollyanna in me is fervent any opportunity is an opportunity to help our kids with their emotions.

The experts are telling us that while it is our natural go to to reward kids when they are generous, once that pint sized human is given a physical incentive to be generous to others, they will only be likely to do so if they think they are getting something out of it.

So, instead of reaching for a reward, reward with your words by praising.

Telling them they are a kind person or that they are the type of kid who really understands how other people feel.

There is ever emerging evidence that a present father has more of an impact than engaged mothers on children’s learning and maintaining helpful behaviour. When a dad is connected with their children, and involved in raising them, the little tykes are likely to feel more empathy for others, until after they grow up.

To manage your children's emotions during the holidays, maintain routines where possible, set clear expectations, and create quiet downtime to prevent overstimulation. Validate their feelings by acknowledging them and model calm behavior yourself. Encourage open communication, teach simple coping strategies like deep breathing, and plan with your kids to give them a sense of control.